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Howās it rolling along out there so far? JKJKJK, donāt answer that, I already know. I am particularly thinking of all of you out there working in healthcare; those of you working to parent and work; those of you TEACHERS! I have admittedly been staying home and dunking my head way deep in the sandāmy favorite go-to coping strategy these daysāand I know that to be able to do so is a ridiculous privilege.
I continue to be in conversation with myself about adaptation. Two years into this mess, I am utterly disabused of the notion that if we just wait a little longer, it will get better. I am sitting with myself, wondering what it will look like to move with, to move through, to keep going, to keep living, inside of breakdown.
I donāt know what else to do!
I hope that you are finding glimmers of joy and delight, despite. I hope that if your kids are driving you mad, that they are also making you giggle from time to time; that your patients are staring at you with eyes over masks full of more love thanā¦not love; that you feel appreciated for what you do, even if that appreciation isnāt coming from anyone āin charge.ā I hope that you are getting enough rest. I wish you entire frozen pizzas to yourself. Oh! And if you are Dry January-ing, Iād love to hear how itās going.
Sending all my good everything, always. Yours in adaptation, DANI
šRead: Friend of the newsletter, dear Esther, sent me this article about shame, āWe Need to Talkā after she read this weekās post. Hereās a snippet:
Safe spaces can exist at different levels. Thereās the interior level ā the way you respond to your own suffering, whether with judgment, shame, and denial, or with compassion. Then thereās the space between two people who sit quietly, without judgment, and respond humanely to each otherās fears. If you invite someone into that space, they will tell the most compelling and heartfelt story. They will dare to speak the thing that theyāve kept quiet inside, and that is the place where we connect with each other. The most personal is the most universal.
šWatch: Sometimes we need to be gentle with ourselves. Sometimes, we just have to cut the bullshit. (I am being silly here! Though as an Enneagram 4 this is sometimes my approach with myself).
š§Listen: This playlist is great for working, working out, baking (who am I kidding I literally never bake), walking the dog, bopping your head in the carā¦check it out and be delighted.
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Thank you Dani, it is so meaningful to be seen. Your kind and encouraging words come at just the right time for this health care worker/parent/married to an educator/recovering soul. My heart and mind are racingā¦still & again. And I was completely invalidated last evening by my therapist (yes) who told me to be āoptimisticā and āpatientā. Ugh. I truly needed these kind and loving words today. Thanks and love š
Thank you Dani, it is so meaningful to be seen. Your kind and encouraging words come at just the right time for this health care worker/parent/married to an educator/recovering soul. My heart and mind are racingā¦still & again. And I was completely invalidated last evening by my therapist (yes) who told me to be āoptimisticā and āpatientā. Ugh. I truly needed these kind and loving words today. Thanks and love š
what the hell, therapist!? oof. good to see you here, Caryn <3
Oh Dani, thanks for continuing to keep us afloat!
thanks for the inspiration!