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Malou Schött's avatar

I relate so hard! Are you perhaps an Eannegram 4?

Sense going back to drinking 6 weeks ago I've had the opportunity to see both sides of the coin.. and oh my godess what a difference on each side.. and how the drinking side just rund away and pulls with it every rug that could possibly be pulled under me and how HARD it is to get back up again. The self trickery, the total lack of boundaries and the shit self esteem.. for me it's all linked to my alcohol abuse.

Looking forward to my future soberness and the next sober from bullshit meeting.

Thank you for your words that makes me feel hopeful and less alone 💓

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Prairie Librarian's avatar

What an AMAZING piece. So much of this resonated deeply. "...wanting to be good, but experiencing myself as bad" ... ooooof. My shame was something so big and terrifying -- I was so, so afraid of it, I would flinch away (often physically) when it frequently intruded my mind. And then I would numb it, or distract myself from it, and boy howdy if booze wasn't a really convenient numbing/distraction agent.

When I stopped flinching away -- when I actually turned toward and sat with my shame, and accepted myself and my past and everything -- I was astonished at how this thing that had been so terrifying was actually something I could encompass. The pain I was so afraid of and was so convinced would overcome me if I didn't flee, so convinced would somehow be fatal, wasn't pain at all. Was actually a kind of growth and emergence. Letting go of the (as you put it) magical thinking about what could-have-should-have-might-have-been is the only was to move forward unshackled.

May we all be shameless, bold and audacious, unabashed and unbroken.

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