LOVE this one. As someone who has checked the boxes I say fuck the boxes. I love my life and am so grateful for everything I have but at the same time not having to answer to anyone but Tater sounds incredible to me. ❤️
Beautiful! This really speaks to me, and made me smile at the end of a long a difficult day, so thank you for that!
Not being able to tick the boxes was such a huge source of shame and despair, for so long, and I'm grateful every day that I was able to get to a place where I'm not only at peace with not having the life I once envisioned (and which was, I knew even at the time, very much in lockstep with what society expected of me) but a place where I deeply feel the kind of joy you describe. The joy of being present in this moment, and the joy of looking forward to the future. The joy of fully inhabiting a life that is mine, that is unique and precious, that I crafted out of the rubble of broken dreams into something weirder and more wondrous than anything I'd envisioned in my youth
Everything you write resonates with me sweet Dani, this maybe even more than most ❤️ I had checked all the boxes (except kids, which was by choice) and then it all got blown up when I got sober and divorced. Four years later and my life looks nothing like most of my friends, and there’s no spouse/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend on the horizon. Some days I’m lonely and a bit sad about it, but many days lately I realize that I’m actually… really happy. I love deciding exactly how I want to spend my time, dreaming and thinking about the future without having to consult someone else. Here’s to moving forward and building our own lives together 💜🦋
YES, Rebecca <3 I too have been feeling this weird sense of...surprise, that I'm actually doing really well. Doing my best to focus on all I do have, rather than the things I lack. It's been helping so much.
finally had a moment to read this one and it’s so spot on. i would like to say that i also think “it would be so nice to not have to be drop-kicked by my thoughts so profoundly”.
when i look at my life and the experiences i’ve had and also the ones i am having - i’m happy. like, even if it’s not in every moment (and i know that i won’t be), that’s okay - bc overall it’s downright damn good.
Jessy! Yes. I'm so good at glomming onto the hard stuff and feelings, one of my new practices is "imprinting joy" - of really letting the good in, and letting that settle into my system, too.
LOVE this one. As someone who has checked the boxes I say fuck the boxes. I love my life and am so grateful for everything I have but at the same time not having to answer to anyone but Tater sounds incredible to me. ❤️
You're the best <3 "Fuck the Boxes" is going to be the first T-Shirt in the Self Made merch shop ;)
Beautiful! This really speaks to me, and made me smile at the end of a long a difficult day, so thank you for that!
Not being able to tick the boxes was such a huge source of shame and despair, for so long, and I'm grateful every day that I was able to get to a place where I'm not only at peace with not having the life I once envisioned (and which was, I knew even at the time, very much in lockstep with what society expected of me) but a place where I deeply feel the kind of joy you describe. The joy of being present in this moment, and the joy of looking forward to the future. The joy of fully inhabiting a life that is mine, that is unique and precious, that I crafted out of the rubble of broken dreams into something weirder and more wondrous than anything I'd envisioned in my youth
Oh my. "weirder and more wondrous than anything I'd envisioned in my youth" - YES, to this. So full of possibility <3 always good to hear from you!
Everything you write resonates with me sweet Dani, this maybe even more than most ❤️ I had checked all the boxes (except kids, which was by choice) and then it all got blown up when I got sober and divorced. Four years later and my life looks nothing like most of my friends, and there’s no spouse/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend on the horizon. Some days I’m lonely and a bit sad about it, but many days lately I realize that I’m actually… really happy. I love deciding exactly how I want to spend my time, dreaming and thinking about the future without having to consult someone else. Here’s to moving forward and building our own lives together 💜🦋
YES, Rebecca <3 I too have been feeling this weird sense of...surprise, that I'm actually doing really well. Doing my best to focus on all I do have, rather than the things I lack. It's been helping so much.
finally had a moment to read this one and it’s so spot on. i would like to say that i also think “it would be so nice to not have to be drop-kicked by my thoughts so profoundly”.
when i look at my life and the experiences i’ve had and also the ones i am having - i’m happy. like, even if it’s not in every moment (and i know that i won’t be), that’s okay - bc overall it’s downright damn good.
Jessy! Yes. I'm so good at glomming onto the hard stuff and feelings, one of my new practices is "imprinting joy" - of really letting the good in, and letting that settle into my system, too.
ooooooh, i love this and am writing it down now. tysm!