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Hey all. Happy Friday. Or whatever kind of Friday you’re having. If you are not having the good-est Friday, it’s OK, me neither, this time of year is so hella weird for so many of us. I’m right there with you.
This week I found out (through word of mouth I think? I don’t remember // my brain is a sieve right now) that both Adele and Drew Barrymore are sober. I always get a warm and fuzzy rush when I learn folks have stopped drinking—celebrity or not. And, it’s a big deal that very high profile people are out and sharing about the positives of abstaining. It helps push back on stigma, it shows that we can recover in public (if we want, if it feels safe) and don’t have to hide or stay anonymous. It might inspire folks to question their habits, to shift their mindset about what it means to be a person in the world who chooses not to drink, who chooses not to do the thing we are programmed to believe from the earliest age that we are supposed to do to do anything at all.
I was thinking about this, washing dishes, spaced out, staring out the window over the sink, mind a-wandering. I was thinking about how, damn, times are so hard. Times are so hard that when I let in how hard things are I go into freeze (I’ve become highly skilled at compartmentalizing, as I imagine you have too). But we’re out here healing, too. Everything is so dire, and then we watch the news and the dire is confirmed and amplified and it’s all so LOUD LOUD LOUD TERRIBLE THE WORST WHY BOTHER and then I am standing there with soapy hands thinking about Adele and Drew Barrymore, who I appreciate but don’t tend to think about basically ever, and I remember that yes, we are struggling, but also, we are waking up.
I said yes to a few too many work things last week, forgetting the amount of time I need to recharge from the work I do in order to show up full and present. The thing is, I didn’t realize I was way past my capacity until earlier this week, when I realized that basic life maintenance (specifically, feeding myself) felt insurmountable. I had plenty of stuff in my fridge. But even throwing a few things together was too much.
Cue the frozen pizza.
Y’all I have been eating so much frozen pizza. It’s OK, it’s not a big deal in the grand scheme. And. It was a signal. When basic stuff is too much, I know I am saturated. So, I’m putting a project off until January. I’m taking half-days and three day weekends and there are daily naps on the couch. I’m letting myself scroll, I’m reading, I’m not only in bed but asleep by 8:30pm more nights than not.
Anyway. I’m trying to link together the Great Waking Up and the Stuffing My Face With Frozen Pizza Extravaganza in an elegant way, and maybe it’s too big of a stretch this here early morning. What I’ll say is y’all, do what you can to take care of yourself right now. And yes, I mean your physical selves, but also, your heart, your soul, your tenderest bits.
We have so much work do to. Right now, aye, let’s go slow. As slow as you need.
All my love forever and always,
tuya, dani
📖Read: As someone who has spent the past two weeks swimming precariously close to the closest thing I’ve ever come to legit burnout at work, I am particularly keen to learning about anything I can do to untangle myself from my capitalist programming. “How to Care Less About Work” is in my metaphorical forever back pocket.
🎧Listen: If you are an enneagram 4 like me and sometimes enjoy…leaning into the innate melancholy oh my god, lay down on the floor with the lights off and listen to this Creep cover as loud as you can on your headphones and yeah, maybe cry like the sad little baby that you are. My god.
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Yes to frozen pizza (YUM) and your two boyfriends! Creature comforts are necessary! Love you!