This week’s post examined the unique relationship we late bloomers have to time, and the vital work of changing our relationship to time if we’re going to forgive ourselves for not having a different past.
The image above is a visual representation of what I did my best to convey with words. It gives me hope, sparks my curiosity, and I love that it reminds me of how I imagine the potential for neuroplasticity might appear in the brain. It’s a redirect forward, it helps me trust the unfolding of my life, it unsticks me from my obsession with the past.
For someone who claims to have plenty of time, this week tested my hypothesis. I’m still working against multitasking. I still get hella distracted by my dumb phone, and what other people are doing on the internet. I still hit snooze. I’m still trying (and failing) to meditate every day. I’m still human, I’m still playing around with designing my life in such a way that I experience life as spacious and full of easy more often than not.
This weekend, I’m hunkering down in the fog, catching up on projects, saying goodbye to some dead weight I’ve been lugging around, resting, and getting tattooed. I’m declaring a personal independence from capitalism’s requisite thrum of anxiety. I’m writing, and napping, and switching to decaf after 2pm.
Stay safe this weekend y’all. I’m around if you need anything at all.
All my good everything, tuya,
dani
📖Read: Thanks to my dear coach Catherine for this one: You Don’t Have to Fight Against Time: “Sadly, though, no finite human being has ever won a fight against time. We just get the limited time we get, and the limited control over it that we get. And if you spend your life fighting the truth of this situation, all that happens is that you feel more rushed and overwhelmed and impatient – until one day time decisively wins the fight, as it was always destined to do. (In other words: you die.)”
👀Watch: As someone absolutely mind boggled by the constant stream of bra ads in my social media feeds, this video helped steady my nervous system for a time (and made me laugh a whole lot).
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i haven't listened to that episode yet but i'm downloading it now! i've also printed a copy of that visual representation as a good reminder for myself. i don't think i give my brain a chance / opportunity a lot of the times to make new neuro pathways and i need to change that. i've been saying this for years but i really need to make it happen!
i haven't listened to that episode yet but i'm downloading it now! i've also printed a copy of that visual representation as a good reminder for myself. i don't think i give my brain a chance / opportunity a lot of the times to make new neuro pathways and i need to change that. i've been saying this for years but i really need to make it happen!
I love how even just *looking* at this image feels like an exhale for my brain <3