January updates from Self Made
INSIDE: Information about a *free* recovery summit this weekend; a *free* Self Made Life Design Skill Session; a generative, all-levels writing workshop; + my undying love and affection...
Hello + happy Tuesday!
Hey friends. Happy 2025. I hope you are all well and have been able to ease into the new year in a good way.
I spent my new year’s with a bad cold, which was yucky enough by itself, and then of course I made it worse by feeling bad about getting sick. I hadn’t realized the pressure I’d put on myself to “start the new year out strong!” until the fireworks were popping off in my neighborhood and I realized how emotionally miserable I felt.
Just one more way my conditioned mind rears her obsessive head in moments I wouldn’t have expected. I’m not even into new year’s eve! January is a horrible time for “new beginnings!” Humans get sick, I don’t need to assign so much significance to it! And yet, there I was, feeling shitty, and as if the rest of the year was already a wash.
All of this to say, I’m on the mend and pleased to discover that all is not actually lost. Indeed, there are some rad things afoot at Self Made, and I am pleased to share three public events this January (read on for those details, including a free sober summit I’m teaching at this Saturday, 1/11).
I also wanted to invite you to my every-other-week Tuesday night community call. Historically, these have been recovery focused call, where we come together and give and receive support. As the community (and the global collective!) continues to evolve, I’m opening up these calls as a low-stakes, low-key way to be in community and to talk about how we’re navigating life. Calls include a brief grounding meditation, and then I introduce a topic for discussion. Come by, say hi, we’d love to meet you.
Here are this month’s events:
🌀 Self Made Community Call: (Tuesday, 8/27/24 @ 6pm PST // 9pm EST): Register here.
Other ways to be together this month:
✨ I’m pleased to be contributing to my dear friend and colleague Anne Marie Cribbin of Thirsty for Wonder’s Sober Summit this Saturday, 1/11 (free!)
I’m teaching my very favorite workshop: CHAOS IS A FRIEND OF MINE.
The blurb: Learn about Chaos Theory and its practical application for building personal and collective resiliency through tumultuous times.
You will consider how disorder, unpredictability, and lack of control are natural parts of change and growth, and discover a model through which you can reconstruct the default narratives you have about yourself and your recovery.
You'll leave the workshop with a concrete framework you can apply toward imagining, creating, and living a new future beyond the limitations in possibility insisted upon by the culture-writ-large.
A tall order! Come hear for yourself 😎
✨ Join me on 1/15/25 for Self Made’s *first* monthly Life Design Skill Session (free!)
January’s topic is Establishing a BASELINE:
→ Do you ever do the thing where you swear to yourself you’re going to begin a daily practice (say, meditation, or journaling, or <fill in the blank>), fall short of your promise, and then rip yourself apart for once again not keeping your word?
→ I’m going to teach the #1 most fundamental tool I share with all of my clients (and have tested and iterated on dozens of times in my own life for the past seven years).
→ This tool will help you learn to listen for what would *actually* be supportive, instead of holding yourself to a standard of perfection you will never meet…and then dropping into the failure/self-flagellation loop that ultimately is the antithesis of what we seek with self care/daily practice.
→ Learning to listen for what would *actually* be supportive to you—a unique individual with unique needs, fluctuating energy levels, and an animal body—instead of listening to what someone or something outside of yourself is convincing you would be supportive, is a first step in expanding self-trust.
→ All are welcome! If you’re already familiar with this tool, this is a great opportunity to revisit and update your BASELINE. One of the best parts of these workshops is the resource shares and suggestions that open up between us.
→ There will be a recording - so please sign up even if you can’t make it live. (Wednesday, 1/15, 9am-10am PST, FREE)
✍🏽 BEGIN ANEW: Self Made’s first writing workshop of 2025 is LIVE.
Let's turn the page on a new year with a crew of warm, friendly, creative comrades. Now more than ever, the world needs is our unique perspective and wild imaginations. Let's write. (January 26th, 2025 | 10am-12pm PST | $44)
Finally! A word on coaching~
1:1 coaching with Self Made is a 6 or 12 month engagement that consists of the following:
🪐 A 75-90 minute intake and assessment.
🪐 A customized personal development program. This is not me telling you what to do; it is a collaboration. I create the program, but before we get started, I run it by you for your buy in. I incorporate your feedback and make adjustments so that inspires a sense of ALIVENESS.
Programs are developmental: you will amplify your strengths, and attend to blindspots, patterns, stuck places.
Programs are both outcome based (working toward developmental goals) and narrative based (creating a new story for yourself and what’s possible). Think practical, and creative.
🪐 Between session tools and practices, observations, readings, and more, to support your program
🪐 Ongoing check-ins and adjustments to ensure program alignment
🪐 Email access to moi as much as you need
🪐 A private Self Made Slack channel for ongoing support, community, and resource sharing.
🪐 Early registration to all Self Made events, workshops, and retreats.
If you’re curious, I’d love to connect. We start with a 60-minute conversation where we can get to know each other and discern mutual fit. I will share about my method and process and answer any questions you have. I am not into hard sells; I want all of my clients to feel a full-body yes when they sign up for coaching. Our connection and chemistry matters.
There are plenty of coaches to choose from. If the idea of developing self-trust as a foundation for a bold, on-purpose life of your design is intriguing to you, I might be yours 😎
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At SELF MADE, the game is to uncover your essential self so you can design a rebellious, bold, on-purpose life that is an expression of who you really are and what you really want. Posts are written by me, Dani Cirignano, writer, Integral Coach, and recovery guide based in San Francisco, CA.
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